My Commitment to Character

Kimber's Personal Commitment to Character

I am personally committed to do the following for the next year on a daily and weekly basis to build my own personal success and endeavor to lead a life that I have imagined.

1.                    Continue to get up on time, sleepy is a state of mind. Get my day started off right.

2.                  Journal my activity to keep moving in a positive direction and stay on track.

3.                   Work diligently at my goals both at fitness and professional levels, in order to build a legacy, have an abundant mentality and a high adversity quotient.

4.                  Early morning I will go for my run or weight train.  I will visualize and energize my workouts.  I am at my goal weight, ripped abs and in awesome shape. I have high energy and I feel sexy.

5.                  I will use my time wisely and take full advantage of my day and achieve all my heart desires.

6.                  Be positive and say powerful and empowering statements to build people up.

7.                  I will be consistent in my efforts.

8.                  Limit my internet and TV time. To make the best use of my time.

9.                  Eat right and track my meals, shoot to stay in ranges.

10.                Smile and laugh a lot, especially at myself, love myself and have self-confidence.  It’s sexy and more appealing than comparing myself to others.

11.                  Have good posture, walk upright with my shoulders back, chest out and a glow of self-confidence.

12.                Be honest with myself and others ~ be a women of my word.

13.                Read and study and make myself knowledgeable.

14.                Pray daily and ask for guidance from God ~ be silent and listen to Him.

15.                Listen carefully to others, become a good listener and communicator.

16.                Be optimistic, have faith and believe in my dreams.

17.                Listen to positive things – garbage in garbage out – feed my mind daily.

18.                I will keep the past in the past. I will learn to grow past the things that have stopped me before.  Have a heart of forgiveness.

19.                Live with authenticity ~ express what I want and then go after it and not be swayed by others.  Be true to myself.

20.              Will live in balance in my life and give the Glory to God.

Sometimes YOU have to do the uplifting!

It is a fact that there are many people out there who don't have a good cheerleader. That person in their corner who is there telling them that they can do it! Encouraging them and building them up with positive words and actions.  Someone who has got their back! Someone who will wipe away the tears. Someone they can lean on when times get hard. 

Who cheers you on?  In your daily quest to become the very best you can possibly be, is there someone walking along side you, encouraging you and lifting you up?

Or do you find that sometimes when you share your dreams you run up against naysayers and people who want to tell you how you SHOULD do it or how your doing it wrong. Or sometimes they just poo poo your dreams and make you feel like you'll never be able to pull that off and "what makes you think...". Sometimes they are even the people who try to discourage you and tell you "you're just not skilled in that way" or "not lucky enough" or maybe just "not cut out for it". 

This happens to people trying to achieve all sorts of things.  One thing that I see a lot is someone who is on a quest to lose weight or get in shape and the people closest to them are sabotaging them at every step of the way, by tempting them with the very things they are trying to cut out or stay away from. Telling them "oh, you can have just one", or "it won't hurt you" and giving them every excuse and reason NOT to follow their plan.  Sometimes it is your spouse or children or other family and you live in the same house with them so it's just not an option to stay away from them.  For many it's co-workers with a candy bowl on their desk, tempting you at every pass by it. But it can happen in many areas of life.

It can be very frustrating and exhausting to deal with. 

The first thing I tell clients is to make a list of the positive and negative people in their lives.  Who gives you energy and who sucks the life out of you?  You become like the 5 people you hang around the most.  So if you live with one or two of them the other 3 better be super energy givers!  We all need to take a look at this list and begin to spend less time with the energy suckers and the negative people who cause us to use more and more of our own energy just to keep ourselves positive. " In order for your cup to runneth over and be able to give to others you have to keep your cup full first!" - Iyanla Vanzant 
I have to be in a good place in order to help others and if I am constantly fighting to stay positive myself then it doesn't balance out very well. I will be the one who is depleted.  We are great at making sure everyone else's needs are met, instead of doing the opposite and making sure that we are okay first, so that we have more to give.  It's a pattern we need to break!

So if you find that you don't have enough cheerleaders... find some more!  Surround yourself with positive people who are headed in a similar direction as you, or are where you want to be and get involved with them.  Form relationships with those people and you'll find that what you put into it comes back ten fold!

Next, and I think most importantly is BE YOUR OWN BEST CHEERLEADER!!  Uplift yourself everyday.  Get your systems in place and use them.  Build your self confidence by speaking the truth and doing what you say your going to do so that you can feel good about you.  Use affirmations and speak to yourself with total loving kindness!  Empower yourself by believing in you even when someone else doesn't.  You create this by envisioning it everyday.  Visualize yourself at your very, very best!  Being who you want to be, having what you want to have, feeling the way you want to feel and living the life you want to live.  Do it right after rising in the morning and the last 10 min. before you fall asleep at night. Put your subconscious mind to work on those things by making them your last thoughts. You have to get so clear on what you want that no one can push you off course.  It doesn't matter if someone else can do it better, more accurate and articulate it better.  You are enough!  You are right were you are suppose to be in your journey.  God has a plan and he is using you through it.  Sometimes we hold ourselves back because we can't be perfect yet?  No one expects you to be and the journey of getting better every day is the most beautiful part!  Live your journey! Believe in your dreams and feed your mind daily with lots of good loving self talk, like you are in the biggest love affair ever..... with YOU!  It's not ego unless you're out telling everyone else how great you think you are. But we truly speak the worst to ourselves on a daily basis and don't stop to think about what all the bad things you say about yourself are doing to tear you down.  Build yourself up... Uplift You! 

Don't be discouraged if you feel like there is no one there to uplift you.  Start forming your group of uplifting people and spending more time around them.  Get with other dreamers and soon the naysayers won't have as much effect on you.  Get your systems in place that help motivate you. By visualization, affirmations and good self talk.  There are a ton of ideas out there.  Some watch motivational videos or read motivational quotes, but find those things that evoke positive energy in you and use them on a daily basis to get yourself "right" and feeling positive and on the right path.
I know someone who's main motivation comes from "proving them all wrong" and it works for her.  Figure out what works for you.  Another person envisions her co-workers blowing up like a balloon when they are trying to get her to eat something she doesn't want to. Soon she found that they learned they couldn't penetrate her resolve and they quit asking her to eat cake, cookies and other treats.  Only you know your motivation and know what causes the emotion in you that then makes you feel lifted up.  Find it and use it for your good.


Kimberly Pfauth
Certified Life Coach / Motivational Speaker
Firestone CO
kimberspeaks@gmail.com

Motivation...

"Let motivation be the by product of your life, not the foundation to build upon." -John Maxwell




I get emails all the time from people asking me how I stay motivated and I'm always stumped because I don't know how to explain it and I usually dive into some rant about setting a goal and working toward it with small goals to get me there etc. And as much as that is true, the real truth is I just set my schedule and I am dedicated to it and it's become a habit and THAT motivates me!



What John Maxwell is talking about is the fact that if you wait to be motivated to do something it just might not happen, but if you do what you should do it usually is followed by motivation. I think too often we are waiting for that light bulb moment the "ah ha!" We're thinking motivation is suppose to be magical and mystical and we get jealous of the fact that some people seem to" have it" and we want it too! That's like saying the girl on the cover of Oxygen is so lucky because she has a body like that! LOL When really we all know "luck" has nothing to do with it. It's hard work and dedication to get there. It's sacrificing and being determined to meet our goals. It is doing it even when we don't feel like doing it. In the words of Nike... JUST DO IT!



When we begin to get dedicated and just do the things we are suppose to be doing, whether it is eating clean and following our workout schedule or one more set. Maybe it's work related and we know we have to make so many calls to set the next appointment and just by putting in the work the results begin to come. But when we don't do what we know we are suppose to do, then sure enough, the results don't come and we find ourselves more and more unmotivated.



I do find that when I put in the work, like getting out of bed on the first alarm at 5:00 a.m. and hitting the gym, running my HIIT on the days I am suppose to and do those last sets when it's the toughest, I begin to feel like something is happening. I feel good about myself and I start seeing results and it makes it a little bit easier to get up (Motivation). When I eat clean and plan my meals and snacks and cook ahead of time so I have everything I need to stay on my plan, sure enough, the scale moves and then I get even more excited to stick to it (Motivation). And when I make all my calls and put in the time that I need to, to set appointments, then I have enough work and I'm making good money and I feel good about my success and it makes rejection seem like just another "next!" (Motivation).



So the key is to remember this the next time I'm feeling like I've lost my mojo or I'm in a slump. All I really need to do is start DOING and the motivation to do will follow. It's like saying I want to make a million dollars and then sitting back and waiting for it to fall in my lap... it just doesn't happen that way. So I say motivation doesn't come without hard work. Sure you need to set a plan and a goal and work toward it and there are a million ways to pump yourself up but the best way is to just do it and I guarantee that you will feel better for having done it!



So let the motivation be the by product of your doing the work and I hope you have a VERY Motivated week!

Breaking the Chain!

Do you ever feel like you have noise in your head?  Let me rephrase that... do you ever feel like voices from your past are continually creeping in and speaking to you, just when you think you've shut them up?

Before you think I'm a total lunatic, I am talking about the bad messages you've had that have followed you around. Maybe since childhood or maybe a bad boyfriend who told you you were ugly.  I used to call them the tapes that played in my head, but now I just call them noise, because nobody uses "tapes" anymore.

I never knew I had noise until I hit my late 20's and wanted to start to change some things in my life and realized it wasn't that easy to do and often I fell back into old patterns that I had been repeating for some time.
Then I learned about "self-talk" and realized that some of my self-talk wasn't even my words.  They had come from things that had been said to me by my parents, sibling or someone at school etc.  Things like "money doesn't grow on trees". I bet you've heard that one before yourself.  It comes from well meaning parents that don't have the means or don't want to provide you with whatever "thing" you think you need at the time, like a new toy or something.  It's a shorter sentence than "you need to understand that at this time we do not have the extra money for something like that, but if you really want it, maybe we can come up with some ideas on how you can achieve earning some extra allowance to get it." But somehow "money doesn't grow on trees" stings just a little more and makes you feel somehow not worthy. It is a definite" NO!" And "there will be no more discussion on this subject! I know I've been guilty of saying it...more than once.

My self-talk was really bad for a long time.  I had a pretty low opinion of myself and my spending issues of living beyond my means didn't help at all to make it any better. When I started listening for it, I was shocked of the things I caught myself saying to me! Things I would never utter to anyone else! Things so mean that if I had told someone else that, I would be a horrible person.  So why did I think it was okay to say them to me and continue to plant them in my subconscious?  I called myself stupid, or an idiot! I cut myself down in every possible way.  My looks, my intelligence, my image etc.  If I could find something to pick at about myself, I would.  I began a process of recognizing I was saying these things to beginning to replace them with a good statement when I realized I was doing it and after years of practice I can happily say that I speak pretty nice to myself all the time now. 

But that doesn't mean that I still don't have noise.  It mostly comes out when I am stressed and unsure I can accomplish something or have the ability to do something.  I begin to doubt myself and hear things like "what makes you think you can do that?", or "you'll never be able to do that!" My noise can get so loud that it will totally blow me off track for a day, or sometimes two. It can be all consuming and drown out my ambition. I begin to think I'm not good enough. I begin to think everyone is better than me and I have nothing to offer.  That part comes from the times in my life when I felt that way.  When I was a child and lived in a family of alcoholics and even though no one talked about it, it made me feel ashamed. To hearing things from the men in my life that made me feel like I was not worthy and would never amount to anything.  To the financial mess I made of my life because I couldn't take responsibility for my action and made me feel like a complete failure.  Those are all really bad times, really bad memories and they somehow stick in my mind easier than some of the good times. And those feelings can be really raw and come flooding back with a wave of emotion that takes me right back to those times.

The "chain" is that those habits and patterns don't have to define you!  Your past does not equal your future and if you have moved on from those things, you are free of those things.  And let me just say that if there are people in your life who can't let go of those things or those times, even though you've changed...then it is probably time to let go of those people in your life because they do not serve you being who you are now.  The chain means you don't have to follow the same patterns you where shown while growing up. I didn't have to become an alcoholic, nor did my brother and we were able to break that chain that had gone on for 3 generations, maybe more. I didn't have to continue to overspend, just because I had created that pattern for myself and it had gone on for years.  You can break the chain!  You can become your authentic self and be true to what you believe and want to be in life.

Let me share a story with you.  Growing up with a lot of alcoholics meant that none of them had a very good attitude and mostly they were grumpy people who blamed others for everything and never had a good thing to say about anyone.  Being around that all the time affected me.  I steered clear of them! In some ways they frightened me when I was young, because you never knew when the next thing they were brewing about was you for some reason or something you did or didn't do! My grandpa was one of those that I dodged often!  I am sad to say I don't have a lot of good memories of him. When he was coming home from the bar I would head out from my grandma's and go home.  They lived just up the road from us.  One day my brother and I were playing baseball in the yard with my grandma. I was in the outfield (probably picking flowers or something) and my grandma was pitching to my brother, who was into playing baseball at this time.  We were roughly 6 and 8 yrs. old.  My grandma would pitch to my brother and he was trying to connect with the ball, but wasn't having much luck.  So my grandma would move up a little closer to him. About the 3rd time she moved up my brother connected with one and drove a line drive right back at her and clocked her in the nose.  She fell over and was out COLD!  My brother and I ran to her and blood was pouring out her nose and we stood there over her and thought the worse.... we thought she was DEAD!  We thought he had killed her.  You have to remember we were little kids - it was all very dramatic! We looked at each other and wondered what to do. Then we decided we'd drag her under a tree and hide her body!  Now, we knew our grandpa would be coming home soon and we KNEW we would get into horrible trouble with him if he found out we killed grandma. So that is how our little minds worked.  We were so worried about his reaction that ours was not normal. Luckily for us she came to. To two hysterical little kids and a broken nose. Poor grandma is 92 yrs. old and still has a crooked nose because she never went to the doctor.  So yes, being around my grandpa effected how I reacted and what I thought.  I have a tendency to still steer clear of negative people, which in many ways is probably a good trait I got from all of that.

I just want you to know that it doesn't matter where you come from, what your background is and what you have done in the past.  You can break that chain and live the life that you deserve and want to have. Be who YOU are, your authentic self now! Embrace it!  And just keep moving forward.  Talk to yourself in the best way and support your goals and dreams. And surround yourself with people who do the same for you! 

2012 will prove to be your best year yet!!